No, I'm not trying to be snobbish, no, I'm not trying to say that I'm better, no, I'm not trying to say that I want to isolate from others. I just want to say that all of us are belonging to exact and specific social classes.
And in my opinion it is normal. I think it is perfectly ok, if people are trying to mingle with people that are bringing them social satisfaction, with people that are contributing to each others personal growth. I sincerely think that it is perfectly fine.
Why I'm so furious about it? Just right now I had a talk with my mum where she described her weekend. She spend it with some old friends of our family. Some time ago we used to be very close to each other, we used to share a lot. Same family problems, almost same income, though my parents used to work in Ukraine and those guys worked in Poland and Italy, but at the end of the day it doesn't matter where you get your money from. So in those days we were pretty close as I said. But it seems that people change with time, it seems that environment is really a big contributor. Now jealousy and misunderstanding are major factors to this relationship.
During 15 years that we know each other my mum got divorced, got new job and really successed in it, I graduated from college, got excepted in graduate program in US and most of my time I spend outside Ukraine. And those guys gave a birth to a child, moved to Poland for permanent residence and managed to break up twice. Now they are again quarreling and it seems that it will all end up with divorce. My mum really tried to be supportive when it was needed, but every time it ends up her being blamed for giving wrong advises. Whatever. It is not a point right now. My point is that during these years my mum and I were growing more, we grew professionally and personally and it was our conscious choice, we wanted to do it and our friends at the same time stayed at the same level where they were. They didn't do anything to be better. At least I didn't see it happening. When they had an opportunity to go and continue their education they skipped, when they had an opportunity to get a better job than cleaning houses they skipped again and at the end of the day they still have guts to make fun of my mum and tell her that both of us are blessed and we have to much luxury in our lives???? They have guts constantly to judge our income and our behavior??? Who are you??? What did you achieve in life in order to behave like that??? I worked my ass off to be where I am right now, my mum did even more. She had a lot of shitty things in her life and no matter what she was strong, she was persistent and she did her best at every situation and at every moment of her life. And she truly deserves to be where she is right now, so every one who has other opinion should shut their fucking mouth up and be silent in the corner, because they have absolutely no right to say so. Because we decided to grow and they decided to stay at the same level of development and that's our major difference.
That's why I think it is more peaceful for me and my mum to maintain relationship with people who are at the same social level as we are in order to have relaxing weekend, in order to have less stress in our lives, in order to grow eve more.
